God Will Never Leave You nor Forsake You, But You Have a Responsibility Too.

We read in Matthew19:26 and in Mark 10:27 that ‘with God all things are possible’.

God is the creator of all things and nothing is impossible to God, but there are things that God won’t do.

In nugget #41 of his book An Enemy Called Average, John L. Mason says “it is as important to know what God can’t do as to know what He can do”, and then he lists a number of things.

It might be a personal thing, and with no negative intent towards anybody, talking about Almighty God, I prefer to rather refer to things that God won’t do – because He is righteous – than referring to things God ‘can’t do’.

To see John Mason’s list you will have to read it in the book. What I would prefer to discuss is the fact that there are certain things that God won’t do, seeing that we have been given a responsibility too.

Take Responsibility.

Yes, God cannot lie because in the Kings James Version of Titus 1:1-4, the Bible says “Paul, a servant of God, and an apostle of Jesus Christ, according to the faith of God’s elect, and the acknowledging of the truth which is after godliness;In hope of eternal life, which God, that cannot lie, promised before the world began;But hath in due times manifested his word through preaching, which is committed unto me according to the commandment of God our Saviour;To Titus, mine own son after the common faith: Grace, mercy, and peace, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ our Saviour”.

God cannot change because He says in Malachi 3:6 (NIV) “I the Lord do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed”.

This is where our responsibility starts. We need to read this scripture in context. Read Malachi 3:6-7 (NIV); I the Lord do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed. Ever since the time of your ancestors you have turned away from my decrees and have not kept them. Return to me, and I will return to you, “says the Lord Almighty”.

You might say ‘yes but Malachi is in the Old Testament and we are not under the Law of Moses anymore”. That is correct, but it does not take away any responsibility on our part. We need to return to the Lord. When we return to the Lord, and abide in Him, we are no longer under the law, but under grace.

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Romans 6:14 (NIV) says “14 For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace.

Slaves to Righteousness

(Romans 6:15-16) 15 What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means! 16 Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?

Reading Malachi 3:7 again, we see that we need to return to God. It is not God who leaves us; it is us who leave God. God cannot (and will not) break His promises and He will never leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). But when we do not abide in Him, we are moving away from His protection.

We cannot live a life of greed and corruption, give in to fear, think we can protect ourselves when we have a healthy bank account, and then blame God if things go wrong.

We also cannot become passive, and think “if it is God’s will He will make me healthy”, or “if it is God’s will, he will get me out of this financial mess”.

The fact that we are saved by grace, and not by our works, does not take away the responsibility that we have. God’s will is made known to us in His Word. We need to pray according to His Word, then speak His Word, and then apply our faith to act in the physical according to what we believe.

Yes, we will miss the point at times, but if we repent and bring it in all honesty before the Lord, He will never leave us nor forsake us.  He will not hold it against us. The price has been paid. We have His forgiveness and we are saved.

Our Responsibility

In Mark 7 Jesus gave an explanation about the fact that it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but rather that what comes out of his mouth. Whatever enters a person from outside, goes to his stomach, not to his heart. He then continued to declare all foods clean (verse 19).

Does that mean that all foods are healthy now? No, if you continue eating junk food there will be consequences. In Leviticus 11 you can read all about clean and unclean (healthy and unhealthy) food. So, does this mean if you eat unclean food, you can’t go to heaven? No, you are saved; it has nothing to do with your salvation. But you cannot say ‘it must be God’s will’ for you to be sickly and you don’t know why, if you continue eating unhealthy foods. There will be consequences here on earth. So you have the responsibility to determine what the quality of your life will be here on earth.

The same goes for when we have sinned. There is no need to start tormenting yourself. The ultimate sacrifice has been made. Repent and sin no more. Rejoice and enjoy life.

When there is only one set of footprints in the sand, it is not because God has left you; it is because He was carrying you.

Don’t Be Passive.

Above HowtownGod created the universe by speaking His Word. The Word became flesh (John 1:1-18). If God doesn’t change, neither does His Word. We have been given dominion over this earth. Dominion is a great responsibility. When you reign over anything, it is pro-active. It is not a guessing game.

God’s will is being made known to us in His Word – the Holy Bible. We are His ambassadors here on earth. We need to speak his Word according to what is written, and then take the appropriate actions that need to be taken in the physical. After that we need to stand in faith. After you have done in the physical what you could do, then leave the rest of the results in the hands of God. But once you have prayed, do not doubt (James 1:6).

An ambassador to a country, speaks with authority. When He speaks, he represents his country and he is speaking on behalf of his country. In order to that, he must be very familiar with what his government is standing for. We are ambassadors for God and His Kingdom here on earth.

This sequence is important though:

  1. You first have to know God’s will (He made it available to us in His Word – the Bible)
  2. You have to speak His Word.
  3. You have to take action according to what you believe.
  4. Have faith in God and do not doubt.

What We Cannot Do

  1. We cannot keep the Law of Moses. We all have sinned. Jesus is the only man who is completely without sin. (Hebrews 4:15; Hebrews 9:28)
  2. We cannot earn righteousness or our salvation through our own works. We are saved by Grace. It is a gift from God. (Ephesians 2:7-9)

What God Won’t Do.

  1. God will never leave us and He will never forsake us (Hebrews 13:5).
  2. God will never break His promises because He is faithful (Numbers 23:19; Deuteronomy 7:9; 1 Corinthians 1:9).
  3. God made a blood covenant with Abraham (Genesis 17:8-10). The fact that Abraham was willing to offer his only son, having faith in God, opened the way for God to give His only son as a sacrifice for our sins (Hebrews 13:19-21). Through the sacrifice of Jesus, the devil was defeated and the blessing was restored into the earth. We now have legal right again to speak God’s Word and have dominion over the earth. But because that responsibility has been given to us, as ambassadors of the Kingdom of heaven, God will not overrule what we say in this earth. That is why it is so important to think carefully about what you say (Mark 11:22-26).
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What Do You Mean – Divine Protection?

Many people are living in constant fear today. There are no guarantees for your safety. Or are there?

When we turn to God’s Word we find that there are protection available to us indeed. Divine protection from God is available to everyone who abides in Him.

I have done a guest post on this topic at Empowerment Moments Blog. you can read the full post here.

The Power of Retreating

We often under-estimate the power of silence. Silence is often even used as a strategy in marketing. When the sales person has done his pitch, he would often just keep silent on purpose. Maybe he’ll ask a question, but after that…….silence.

Without being rude or ‘pushy’, he is actually putting the prospect under pressure. The silence becomes uncomfortable, and the potential customer would rather break the silence, often with a positive response (if the sales person knows what he is doing).

We also refer to the ‘silence before the storm’. During times of war, there would often be a time of such silence that it’s actually scary, and then….the next moment….it’s all chaos.

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That brings us to nugget #40 in John L. Mason’s book An Enemy Called Average. It says “retreat to advance”.

Yes, there is another side to silence as well. We often get so caught up in the ‘rat race’ and we don’t allow ourselves enough time for rest and recovery. We think we are on the go and while we have the momentum we should just keep going.

But often we can do better by taking a break. When writing, I would hardly ever publish an article immediately after I’ve written it. Sometimes you work against deadlines and you don’t have an option, but as a rule, I don’t do it. It’s amazing how many changes I would make to an article after leaving it for a day. Yet, when I completed it the day before, it seemed to be in order.

When you need to be focused, silence can be powerful. You might be working on an important project and you need the silence to concentrate.

Taking time to retreat will be the best decision you have made in a long time. By taking a week to just isolate yourself from all the ‘busyness’ around you, you might even be able to finish that project faster as you remove all the distractions around you.

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While you find yourself surrounded with activity, it will often take courage and will power to step away and take some time to retreat. Being ‘busy’, gives you the feeling of being productive, but it is not always the case.

All the activity and noises also often prevents us from hearing from God.

Build up that courage and take some time to retreat. Just allow yourself some space – some quiet time. Retreat and be victorious.

Did You Hear From God, Or Was It Just A Thought?

I think this can often be a challenge for many people. I’ve had that experience so often in my own life. You would be convinced that you are doing the right thing and that you are within the will of God, yet shortly after you’ve made the decision and took action, it feels as if the wheels are coming off.

That brings us to nugget #39 in John L. Mason’s book An Enemy Called Average. It says “ideas go away, but direction stays”.

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We often make the mistake of thinking that if your decision was in line with the will of God; everything will just fall into place. Then, when chaos breaks loose, we start tormenting ourselves with feelings of guilt and doubt.

Yes, when our lives are constantly in chaos, we should be taking stock because maybe we did get off course somewhere. But this is where I find John Mason’s nugget absolutely spot-on.

Let’s have a look at the nugget again; “ideas go away, but direction stays”. If something is meant to be and it is God’s will, it is often possible for things to “just fall in place”. But it is also possible for challenges to start appearing shortly afterwards. The test lies in this; does everything fade away? Or is there consistency in the direction?

Ideas Go Away, But Direction Stays.

If it was just an idea, chances are that it will just go away. You will start running out of ideas. Everything will come to a dead end. But if God is involved, there will be direction and consistency.

Remember, facing challenges doesn’t mean that God is not involved. The enemy would love to see you fail and he will challenge you. But when God is involved, you will stay on course.

Have you ever found that it seems as if you get challenged with every challenge you can imagine? Yet, you stay on the same course?

Just as you think it is impossible to push through, you are able to take another step, no matter how small it might be. You might even think of giving up and you try something totally different, but that doesn’t work at all and eventually, somehow, you find yourself back working at the same thing you thought is not working for you.

This might be a good time to have a look at Proverbs 19:21 (NIV), that says “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails”. And in Psalm 32:8 (NIV) the Lord gives us this promise; “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you”.

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The Lord is gentle, and He will never force you to do anything. As a matter of fact, He will allow you to do whatever it is you want to do. You might even be successful to a certain degree, but as long as you do it in your own power, you will have to put in a lot of effort and toiling. In spite of all the effort, it might still come to nothing, or it may start costing you in the form of your health, family life or some other area. Psalm 127:1-2 (NIV) says “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat — for he grants sleep to[a] those he loves”.

Yet, when you are fulfilling your real purpose, and God is working with you, directing you every step of the way, you will be excited about getting started in the morning. You might be busier than ever before, but it wouldn’t feel like work.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t have to face any challenges, but you will be able to overcome them all (John 16:33). You will stay on course and live life with a purpose.

Guaranteed Success.

We are often scared to find out what it is that God wants us to do. People tend to think that what God wants us to do, can’t be fun. Or what if I’m not able to do what He expects of me?

Believe me, it’s got nothing to do with your ability, it is about your availability. Stop relying on your own abilities and trust God to get the job done. He is much more capable than us.

Do you want to have fun? Allow God to take control and you’ll have more fun than you can dream of. And the best of all, the fun won’t stop, because God’s fun won’t harm you, it will actually make you stronger.

The Creator has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do. – Orison Swett Marden

Have you given the reigns over to God? Or are you still holding on for dear life, staying in control of your own life? Tell me about it, I will love to hear from you.

What does God’s Names Reveal About His Character?

“Stop every day and look at the size of God”, is nugget #38 as it appear in John L. Mason’s book An Enemy Called Average. With that in mind I’ve decided to have a look at the character of God.For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts

While still here on earth, we will not be able to comprehend everything about God in full. What we do know is that there is no one like God. As the heavens are higher than the earth, God’s ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:9). No man knows the things of God, but the Spirit of God (1 Corinthians 2:11).

So it is best to see what the Spirit of God will reveal about God, which is why we go to the Word of God. Let us have a look at the names of God as they are known to us and see what the Bible says about them, and what it means to us.

The Redemptive Names of God

  • Jehovah Shammah
  • Jehovah Shalom
  • Jehovah Jireh
  • Jehovah Nissi
  • Jehovah Tsidkenu
  • Jehovah Rapha
  • Jehovah Raah

Let’s have a look at these names one by one to see what they teach us about God’s character.

  1. Jehovah Shammah

Jehovah Shammah means – The Lord is there.

God is always with us. In Matthew 28:20 (NIV) Jesus said “….And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

In Hebrews 13:5 (NIV) God says “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”[a]  

God never leaves us or forsake us. We are the ones who leave and forsake God.

  1. Jehovah Shalom

Jehovah Shalom means – The Lord of our peace.

Isaiah 53:5 (NIV) says; “But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed”.

That means that not only did Jesus go to the cross for our salvation, but also that we could have peace. That is why in John 14:27 (NIV), Jesus said “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid”.

Isaiah 26:3 says “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you”.

The problem is that so many people put their trust in riches, in circumstances, or in lust of other things, but not in God’s Word. When we completely trust in Jesus – the Word – our minds become totally focused on God. When our minds are totally focused on God and His Word, He will keep us in perfect peace.

In the New Testament the words ‘peace’ and ‘rest’ are interchangeable.

In Matthew 11:28 (NIV) Jesus says “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest”.

1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) says Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you”. But how many times do we cast our cares on the Lord and immediately take them back again. You might be facing a problem at work. You come before the Lord in prayer and you cast the problem on him, standing on 1 Peter 5:7. Yet, as soon as you say amen, you start thinking about what you are going to do about the problem and your stress levels are going through the roof again.

To experience the peace of God; do what Philippians 4:6-8 (NIV) says:” Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things”.

  1. Jehovah Jireh

Jehovah Jireh means – The Lord will provide.

God is our provider. Whenever the Israelites said “Jehovah Jireh”, they were saying, “The Lord will provide”.

As already mention in point 2, many people put their trust in riches, in circumstances, or in lust of other things.

Your job is not your source; God is your source. There is nothing secure about your job or your business. Trusting in the economy of the world, the company you work for might decide to make your position redundant tomorrow. Or your business might not be able to withstand the bad economy.

But God’s economy cannot go bankrupt. Trust in God, because the Lord will provide. God will provide in every need, whether it is for your business, for finances, healing, food…..no matter what the need, God will provide.

Philippians 4:19 (NIV) says: “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus”.

  1. Jehovah Nissi

Jehovah Nissi means – The Lord our Victor.

Jesus Christ is no longer on the cross. Neither is He in the grave. He is alive and he is seated at the right hand of the Father in heaven (Mark 16:19).

Colossians 2:15 (NIV) says “And having disarmed the powers and authorities, he made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross”.[e]

Jesus made a public spectacle of the devil and his demons. If you believe with your heart and confess with your mouth, you will be saved (Romans 10:4-13) and that same victory belongs to you (Romans 8:17).

Through the Holy Spirit He is also living in and through us. 1 John 4:4 (NIV) says “You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world”.

Jesus is making intercession for us. In Christ we have His authority and His name – he is our Victor.

  1. Jehovah Tsidkenu

Jehovah Tsidkenu means – The Lord our Righteousness.

When we are born again, we are made in right standing with Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit and God the Father. We can say “I am a son/daughter of the living God, I am a joint heir with Jesus Christ according to Romans 8:17”.

2 Corinthians 5:21 (NIV) says “God made him who had no sin to be sin[b] for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God”.

  1. Jehovah Rapha

Jehova Rapha means – The Lord that healeth thee.

Healing is just as much part of our salvation as eternal life with God the Father in heaven. Many people think that sickness is just something we have to accept. It even goes as far as people saying “maybe God is trying to teach me something through this sickness”. No, no, no. God is not trying to teach you anything through sickness.

Adam was given dominion over this earth, but he gave that authority to the devil with the fall of man. 2 Corinthians 4:4 tells us that Satan is the god of this world. In John 10:10 (KJV) Jesus says “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly”.

Matthew 8:17 (NIV) says “This was to fulfill what was spoken through the prophet Isaiah: “He took up our infirmities and bore our diseases.”[b]

1 Peter 2:24 says “He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”

This is why it so important to feed our spirit with the Word of God, so that we can know how to respond in an emergency. That is why Proverbs 4:20-23 (NIV) says “20 My son, pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words. 21 Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; 22 for they are life to those who find them and health to one’s whole body. 23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”.

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Jehovah Raah means – The Lord is our Shepherd.

Psalm 23:1 (KJV) says “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want”.

The original text as it appears in Hebrew reads “The Lord my Shepherd”. It doesn’t show the word ‘is’. So we cannot separate the shepherd from the Lord or the Lord from the shepherd. The Lord is my Shepherd and my Shepherd is the Lord. We also need to realize in what context this scripture is referring to the Shepard. It is not just a silent, passive, man standing around watching over his herd of sheep (as often portrayed in nativity scenes).

The Shepherd is actively looking after us. He is the One that defeated the devil 2000 years ago.

I think a more realistic image comes to mind when we think of David. When he was looking after his father’s sheep as a young boy, he fought lions and bears and killed them to ensure the safety of his father’s sheep (1 Samuel 17:34-36).

Psalm 23:2 “He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters”.

This does not mean we will never have to face persecution or affliction, but the Shepherd will uphold us and lead us out of it. Jesus defeated Satan and we share in that victory (Romans 8:17)

Psalm 23:3 “He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake”.

When we come to Jesus Christ, God will restore our minds and emotions. Jesus became sin for us, so that we might be made the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21).

Psalm 23:4 “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me”.

Whatever situation you might find yourself in, you are not stuck in there to stay there. You are moving through it. And when faced with physical death, we die physically but we step into eternity. Death has been defeated by Jesus Christ and has no more power over us.

We don’t have to fear evil. The Holy Spirit is with us and enables us to resist the devil and he will flee from us (James 4:7).

Psalm 23:5 “Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over”.

You are protected and you can live in peace. When facing problems, you can cast your care on Him (1 Peter 5:7). God says He prepares a table for you in the presence of your enemy. There are no enemies in heaven. God is talking about here and now.

Anointing with oil is symbolizing the filling with the Holy Spirit. The Shepherd is the One that fills you with the Holy Spirit.

When you cup runs over, it means that your needs would be met at any given time. It doesn’t mean that you are going to be a millionaire. But ‘running over’ means your needs (whatever they are) will be met in abundance, so that you can also be a blessing to those around you.

Psalm 23:6 “Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever”.

If we made Jesus the Lord of our life, we are made new creatures (2 Corinthians 5:17). That means that we have received eternal life and will spend eternity with Jesus.

So How Does All This Help Me In Everyday Life?

‘Stop every day and look at the size of God’. When we put our trust in God, there is nothing in this life that we cannot overcome.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s End The Confusion

“Love your enemy”…..”turn the other cheek”…is what many Christians get bombarded with. Does that mean that we as Christians are not supposed to defend ourselves?

I have done a guest post over at Empowerment Moments Blog about the choices we have to make; to resist or not to resist.

Recent news events highlighted this question; should we as Christians turn the other cheek or should we defend ourselves? One of the deadliest weapons (or strategies) in warfare is confusion, and our biggest enemy – Satan – is an expert in using this strategy.

Confusion will render us helpless and vulnerable, but you can read the full post here, and then decide for yourself.

6 Reasons Why You Should Pay Attention to What You Say

We are quick to complain about the chaos the world is in. Everybody is talking about the corruption, the fact that you can trust nobody anymore, the crime, the violence, the lying, the cheating and how rude people are.

We blame politicians and corrupt businessmen, and we even go to the extent to ask why God allows all this. But have you ever paid Don't Say That jar, collecting coins for bad wordsattention to your words? Yes, the words you speak every day have a far greater effect than what you might realize.

Nugget #37 in John L. Mason’s book An Enemy Called Average is about “ten truisms that aren’t true”. A few weeks ago I’ve discussed 20 attributes of a leader and I repeated them as they are in his book. I mentioned that there is not much to discuss about facts, as they are what they are.

Today I want to stay with the norm which I have followed from the beginning of this series though. John Mason is highlighting ten specific truisms, but you will have to read about those in his book.

As I have done every week so far, I will refer to his nugget, but then do a discussion which is completely my own opinion. So for today’s discussion I will choose other sayings and focus on those. These are things we tend to say before we think about what we are saying.

Words Have Power.

Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) says “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit”. Yet, we still don’t pay attention to what we say.

What I fail to understand (and I hear this often) is when people say “I love working with John. We can have a huge argument about work and I can even swear at him, but it’s only business. An hour later we can have coffee together and there are no hard feelings”.

What am I missing here? What you are saying is that you can treat me like a piece of dirt the one moment, and the very next moment I must be your buddy. That’s like expecting of me to have some kind of ‘switch’ somewhere that I just flip over depending on your mood or opinion. When you want to be rude to me, I must just accept it and when you want to be buddies again the next moment; I should be grateful and smile.

Forgive me, but I fail to understand the logic in that reasoning. I do not say that we should always agree about everything. But then we can have a civilized conversation, showing mutual respect until we can come to some form of an agreement. There is no need to insult one another. As an example; how could you tell someone to his face that he is plain stupid and that he doesn’t know what he is doing; and an hour later you want to have a friendly conversation over a cup of coffee and expect that same person to act as though he thinks you respect his intelligence?

And then we wonder why so many people battle today with low self-esteem. Why do people battle with an identity crisis? At the same time people can’t understand why no-one takes them seriously. Yet, they would tell someone they don’t want anything to do with them, but tomorrow morning they sit down and have coffee together as if nothing has happened.

According to Matthew 5:37 and James 5:12 we shouldn’t need to make promises or oaths to convince somebody when we say something. What we say should be so trustworthy that we simply need to say “yes” or “no”.

The study notes in the Life Application Bible (KJV) for James 5:12 say the following: “A person with a reputation for exaggeration or lying often can’t get anyone to believe him on his word alone. Christians should never become like that. Always be honest so that others will believe your simple yes or no. By avoiding lies, half-truths and omissions of the truth, you will become known as a trustworthy person.

This does not mean that you need to become a “sour grape” and you are never allowed to joke with someone. But when you are known for your “yes” meaning “yes” and your “no” meaning “no”, people will take you serious when you say something. That also means that when you have a difference of opinion with someone else about some business or work matter, you are not going to say something without thinking. You do not have to get involved in a screaming session or an argument. You can voice your opinion, and that settles it. Both parties can still respect one another for their opinions, and that cup of coffee afterwards can be enjoyed by both parties.

Six Examples of What We Say Without Thinking:

  1. “If it was me I would have punched him” or sometimes people really get into it and it becomes “If I was there I would have shot him” or “If that happens to me I’ll shoot him”.
    • No you wouldn’t. Firstly, you weren’t there, how can you say for a fact what you would have done?
    • Secondly, nine times out ten, people who are quick to make these kind of statements, respond totally to the opposite when they do find themselves in that situation.
    • Thirdly, it’s not as simple as just drawing a firearm and shooting someone. Have you ever thought about the consequences? Do you even know what it feels like to point a firearm at someone?
  2. “Everything in life comes at a price”.
    • No, if you work hard and you achieve success, that work was an investment. I wouldn’t exactly call that a price. (Unless you didn’t maintain the balance and you lost your family in the process. That is paying a price.)
  3. “It’s either win or lose”.
    • I have recently heard a nice one to replace that statement with: “It’s either win or learn”.
  4. We often hear parents calling their children stupid. “Why did you do that, are your stupid?”……Or they take some task away from the child while making the comment “I’ll rather do it myself, you’ll never be able to do it”.
    • These remarks are causing so much damage. That child eventually starts believing that he / she is useless and can’t do anything right.
  5. “That will never work”.
    • You can only say that once you have stopped trying.
  6. “This is just my luck”, or “I always have bad luck”, or “with my luck I’ll always end up with a problem which can’t be solved”.
    • That’s because you have decided before-hand that you cannot solve the problem. Your mind responds to what you are saying continually, so you start believing what you are saying. By this time, it doesn’t matter what problem ends up on your desk, it will look difficult to you, because that is what you expect. You’ve already made up your mind about how bad it’s going to be. It’s got nothing to do with ‘luck’. Once again, it’s not about what happens to us, but how we respond to what happens to us.

There are many more of these, but maybe it’s time to start paying more attention to what we say.

Earlier this month there was a discussion on the Believers Voice of Victory Broadcast between Kenneth Copeland and Keith Moore. The discussion was on the topic of how God can clearly be seen. But during this discussion Keith Moore also mentioned some great examples of how our words have an influence on our thinking. He also illustrates an excellent example of how it affects our children through the way we respond to them and what we say to them.

There is one other saying that we also often use, and while we might think it’s just an expression, this one holds more truth than what you may think. We would sometimes refer to someone by saying that person “is sharp with the tongue”, or “wow, she has a sharp tongue”. That is normally referring to someone who seems to be good at saying something hurtful (often sarcastically), and those words really penetrate and hurts deeply.

This alone should already be ample proof of the power of the tongue and of the effect of the words you speak.

Create By Speaking

Have you ever had the experience of being in a room where everybody is relaxed and just having a good time? Until one other individual enters the room. This person is really stressed out and angry. He starts barking out orders and is rude to everybody in the room. Have you ever experienced that? To the extent where you use the expression “the whole atmosphere in the room changed. The atmosphere got so thick and tense that you could feel it”.

For that same reason, why don’t we start creating a pleasant atmosphere wordswherever we go? Create an atmosphere that everybody wants to be in. We can do that by paying attention to what we say and how we say it.

What is your experience with words? Do you think before you speak, or do you sometimes find yourself thinking that you shouldn’t have said that? Are people taking you serious when you speak? Have you ever realized the effect that your words have on how you feel? Have you ever been hurt by someone else’s words?

Let’s talk about it in the comments section below. I look forward to hearing from you.