One of the biggest problems we are facing in today’s society is the fact that people don’t want to take responsibility. Whatever goes wrong, it is always someone else’s fault.
Parents get blamed for all kinds of addictions. When people have problems with alcohol addiction, it is “because my dad was a heavy drinker, that’s just how I grew up”. Battling with violence, it is because they grew up in a violent home, or the neighbourhood was to blame.
When turning to crime, it is because of the bad economy, and they just can’t afford to make an honest living. I’ve even heard the devil getting credit for this when people say things like…”I don’t know why I’ve done it, the devil made me do it”.
I think they are giving the devil more credit than he deserves. The devil can’t force you to do anything, unless you are willing to do it.
This brings me to nugget #18 from John L. Mason’s book, An Enemy Called Average. The nugget as he gives it to us is: “The best helping hand you will ever find is at the end of your own arm”.
Take Responsibility for Your Own Actions
If you grew up in a bad neighbourhood or with violence in your home or with parents who had some addictions, it is still no excuse for not taking responsibility for your own actions. It should actually serve as additional motivation not to repeat their mistakes, or to make the world a better place for everybody to live in. The well-known John D. Rockefeller was a classical example of this. He didn’t exactly have an easy life as a child, with his father only being marginally employed and his mother struggling to keep them going, despite the lack of finances. Yet, he turned out to become the wealthiest man in the world.
In Deuteronomy 28, God sets before us all the blessings and curses. Then in Deuteronomy 30:19, we are given the responsibility to make our own choice.
Each one of us has a choice. There is not one single person in this world that has been created without the ability to make choices. Granted, we sometimes make the wrong choices, but that doesn’t mean we have to stick to them. Once you realise that you have made the wrong choice, take responsibility, change your course and make it right.
Nobody said that taking responsibility is going to be easy either. You most probably will get much resistance for making the right decisions. But pray about it and ask for wisdom and guidance from God (James 1:5). Once you have peace about your decision and you are convinced that you are on the right track, don’t back down, persevere and press on. Don’t give up at the first sign of failure.
Then, once your course has been set, keep on keeping on. Never lose momentum.
“Success is not final, and failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
Who or What Do You Put Your Trust In?
It is amazing how many people are desperately seeking for help from other people, while – between them and God – they have everything they need.
People tend to always look horizontally, and end up seeking help only from other people, such as business people, financial institutions, life coaches, motivational speakers, etc.
There is nothing wrong in itself with any of the abovementioned people or institutions. Proverbs 15:22 (NIV) says “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed”. It is wise to seek knowledge from people who are well informed where it concerns the situations you need to make decisions about.
The danger is when you are not careful about:
- Who you approach.
- Putting your trust in these people instead of God.
- When you become willing to give up control of your vision in exchange for money or sometimes even companionship.
Proverbs 16:1-3 (NIV) says “To humans belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the proper answer of the tongue.2 All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the Lord. 3 Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans”, and Psalm 118:8 (NIV) says “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes”.
The Best Helping Hand You Will Ever Find Is At The End Of Your Own Arm.
So, it is wise to get the counsel of the appropriate people and to get constructive advice. But your trust should be in the Lord.
Dare to dream your own dreams, receive your own vision from the Lord. Then take the responsibility of taking control of your own vision. You will need to apply faith (and lots of it), but when your priorities are straightened out, you will succeed.
We all have been blessed with the ability to choose. So you choose. Do not allow someone else to choose for you. Then put your hand to it, and do what you need to do. If you want to take control of your life, accept responsibility for your actions.
How do you overcome obstacles in your life? How do you cope with the challenges coming your way? I would love to hear from you.